- Dreaming of moving out
I loveÂ this place, especially when summer comes around, as it finally has.Â The hustle and bustle of Coolidge Corner and Brookline Village, the treelined streets, the many large, grassy parks, the general friendliness of the community, oh and not toÂ forget the two independent bookstores, one of themÂ the Children’s Bookshop. Work/school/daycare areÂ less than 3 miles away… Who could ask for more?
Still, I often dream of moving out. I dream of it constantly, now.
But where is “out”? What does it mean?
- Peace and quiet
“Out” for me is, first of all,Â into a place where I canÂ have some peace. I’ve become very sensitive – my senses have -Â to the small polluting ways of city life.Â All summer means to me, sometimes,Â isÂ the surround sound of airconditioners: on and on they drone, while their owners aren’t even at home. Across the street, the engine of a parked car has been running for an hour now, to keep it cool inside. To top it all off, a leafblower starts up close by, filling the apartment with more noise and gasoline fumes…
Then it is hard for me to concentrate on the frolicking of the Red Cardinals in the bushes outside my window,Â and the beautiful narcissi bending in the breeze. I resort to terrible thoughts of vengeance.Â Like, last year I planted some wildflowers near our front door – one neighbor called them “weeds, all kinds ofÂ silliness”. Now they’re back: a neat rowÂ where I planted them, and all over the neighborhood! All those manicured lawns, overrun by weeds… Oops!
- That panic pushes me
But all “silliness”Â and petty griping aside, the roots of my pain reach beyondÂ mere aesthetics. All those wasteful habits are guzzling away our children’s futures, polluting the airÂ and the silence, our bodies and our souls. I read the news on peak oil, global warming, bees getting lost… and I feel lost myself. IÂ try to keep my panic under control: I want it to be practical, constructive, realistic, rational, reasonable.
But I am overwhelmed with the feeling that everything I am doing is useless. I can’tÂ concentrate on my dissertation, which needs to be finished by May next year. Or on my freelance writing orÂ the potboiler that is so much fun to put together. Or on the many other projects I have knocking about in my head and on my desk. None of them will make a difference that will count.
And the small things we’re doing to make a differenceÂ don’t add up to enough.
- Cut and run
I would dearly like to make a difference here, make it workÂ here. I don’t like running away; it seems like a defeat to me. And everyone (who is priviliged enough to be able to)runningÂ off to the country or the wilderness would just make matters worse. ButÂ I bump up against the limits of this place, this community, and they suffocate me.Â Not being allowed to compost, for instance,Â angers me. Every time we bring up renewable energy as an alternative to ourÂ oil-heating, we are ignored. Residents only think as far as they are planning to own their appartment: any “future investments” are up to their buyers.
I don’t get shrill (except here perhaps: is this shrill?).Â I’m not the assertive kind. I wish I were an activist,Â but I crumble in any kind of confrontational situation. I can’t make this place change. So IÂ plan our escape. I count my blessings: easy access to information, anÂ abilityÂ to do theÂ research, and a husband who will one day, once I have enough information, arguments and confidence,Â understand the wisdom and the need to execute the plan.
- A child’s role
Amie plays a large role in my “enlightenment,” which started to burn moreÂ brightly a couple of months ago. Yes, she is almost 2 years old. ButÂ it took me at least a yearÂ to get overÂ theÂ shock of motherhood, to settle back into the habit of sleep and a clear mind so I could think beyond tomorrow.
Also,Â the rapid development of her cognitive andÂ language skills is forcing me to moreÂ articulateness,Â thoughtfulness, and accountability.
Because, one of these days, she is going to ask: Why?
I dread that day, and I dream of it with a passion. And I want to be ready.
- The plan
So here’s the plan:
- to be self-sufficient for a large chunk of our food: grow vegetables, plant fruit trees, keep chickens and even goats, and even, even bees…
- to be self-sufficient for at least some of the objects we use: furniture, toys, clothes, housing, electricity and heating…
- to be autonomous, self-regulating, responsible.
- to be skillful, handy, creative, flexible.
- to be confident and active after questioning, discerning, investigating (a never-ending process).
- to be a good stewart of what little ofÂ nature is under our “control”, and respectful of the rest.
- to be happy and joyful.
I thought it would be a long list, but this is really all I want. Is it so much to ask for? Is it so hard to get?